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[quote=Anonymous][quote]She's not wrong. You pay for a kiddush or oneg which may only be challah and some cookies and soda but the synagogue will charge you $1,000 as a donation. Being an observant Jew is for the wealthy[/quote]

So wrong. Every synagogue we visited offered a sliding scale on dues. The dues, which are tax deductible, go to support all aspects of the synagogue--the building, the staff, the books, the classes, etc. And you will not be turned away from a synagogue during regular services (Fri night, Sat morning).  And for that matter, if you want high holiday tickets and can't afford them you can just call your synagogue of choice and I can almost guarantee you will have tickets. The Jewish religion is open to all and while it may seem to be expensive from an outsiders view, I don't know of any place that would turn away a Jew who wanted worship.

As for the Bar/Bat Mitzvot, yes there is a donation requirement as well as a volunteer requirement. But if you cannot afford to give financially, you can always give in other ways. These big parties are optional.

Also, for those who are still reading this, the Bar/Bat Mitvah represents the child becoming an adult and therefore responsible for the 613 mitzvot--e.g. fasting on Yom Kippur, following the rules of Shabbat and Kashrut, etc... It is really the beginning of his/her life as a Jew, not the celebration of the end of Hebrew school, as so many of us treat it.  It is a big deal if you are an observant Jew.

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