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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was just about to ask about with at too. Where is the rest of your extended family, if any? Aunts, uncles, cousins? Are both of your parents only children too? If not, don't they ever visit their siblings? I am sure your hormones are raging now that you are expecting. How far along are you? Is your relationship better with your dad or mom? It just seems like so far they are one voice and unit - kinda odd that your mom isn't planning a trip to see you before you deliver - let alone for the time you are home on maternity leave. Anyway, (((hugs))) to you, honey. Make your own family memories with your own children, and you will have that close knot family you always wanted. Create it. Don't let their selfishness rob you and your husband of that. They are selfish. Period. Visiting family can't always be in a tropical setting. It's about sharing memories, time and growing closer. Don't beat yourself up- it's not your fault. Create your own happiness and raise your children differently. [/quote] OP here. I am 24 weeks along. Rest of extended family is scattered all over the country, and my closest kin is in Iowa, so not very close by. Unfortunately my parents are not close with any of their siblings and do not visit them--they only see them at family weddings, which are only once every 5 years or so. My parents just don't put a very high value on family. They are content to do their own thing in Hawaii and only talk to their siblings once or twice a year on the phone, if that. Since I grew up without any family in my hometown, I never really got to know my aunts/uncles/cousins very well, as I would only see them once every few years or so. I guess what recently really upset me was my parents telling me that they are planning another exotic vacation this fall. But they don't seem to have the time or inclination to visit me before I deliver. I haven't seen them in almost a year at this point, it will be well over a year when I deliver. It's like it just doesn't occur to them to visit me, though they manage to pack in plenty of other vacations each year. And when they do visit me it's only for 5 or 6 days, whereas the rest of their trips are 4-6 weeks long.[/quote]
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