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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Interesting how this is so important to MIL but makes no move to put her money where her mouth is. If she wants her beloved grandchildren there she should foot the bill, not pile on the pressure about saving for it. She is absurd. Who says that with 3 children this wedding is even something you WANT to save for?  I can think of 3 college funds that would be a more worthwhile investment. Anyway, count yourself lucky that she is t offering to pay because then you have to decide if mothering three young children in a far away paradise is what you want to for a long weekend. Sounds dreadful. The way you are planning it is great. Your DH will get to have real quality time with his bro before his wedding, some downtime in a beautiful location while you have kindly offered to stay home watching all the kids. Sounds pretty kind and generous and smart to me! MIL just has a view of what the wedding needs to look like and you are playing and she's being a brat. Wonder what kind of headaches she's giving the bride to be and her family at this point...[/quote]

MIL probably covets having a little "alone" time with her boys and is just saying  "Oh, PLEASE won't you bring the wife & kids"  to make it sound as though she REALLY wants you there, too, but she knows dam well that's financially unreasonable - she just wants to make sure that your dh goes to this for his brother and she knows that it won't be cheap for your family even if only dh goes.  The faux pleading and guilt trip is kind of a craptastic thing for a grandma/MIL to do but of course she isn't the one that planned this whole thing (normally that falls on the bride's family and the couple) so you can't really resent her for it too much.

DH should go if he can afford to and you should turn a deaf ear to MIL's manipulative act.  Once you let her know that dh is going, I'll bet she'll settle down.  [/quote]

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