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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you expect the entire family to revolve around you just because you have a three year old? [/quote]

She's not asking for that at all. In fact, seems to me that she's trying NOT to make the event all about her and her small child. Maybe a lot of those relatives will get pissy and roll their eyes if the kid acts up and starts throwing a tantrum. If anything, she's trying to take the attention off of her child. And I highly doubt there will be any deathbed regrets on either side if her kid does go to the buffet and they call it an early night. Family events often get blown out of proportion and then years later, people hardly recall them. [/quote]

+10,000!!

OP, heed the post quoted above. Ignore the people pushing SO hard for you to use some babysitter you and your child have never set eyes on before. Ignore the people insisting that you dress up your child and take him in the hope that he's "the life of the party" as someone else put it. You're very preggers and don't need the stress of all this. I would indeed have DH go to the dinner alone; you and son can hang out in the hotel room and you can give him the treat of watching TV there for a while. I know you wanted DH there to help with bedtime; you're pregnant and don't want to deal with fusses etc. but I would tell DH to go to the dinner. Your son likely will be tired from the traveling anyway so that might help you with bedtime. But if you don't want to go to the dinner yourself and don't want to take your son, just say son needs an early bedtime and you want the grownups to have their fun.

Someone said to check whether it's adults-only anyway. I would bet that it IS, in the minds of the organizers, and they didn't even think about your having a young child there with you. They too may be assuming you'll use a babysitter from the resort. Don't cave to it if you do not want to use a sitter you don't know.

And as the person above said -- these family functions get so very blown out of proportion and it will not matter later, unless his family is so jerky they'll hold it against you forever. If that were the case you'd have much bigger issues anyway. [/quote]

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