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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Seems like a lot of elderly people are unsure of what to do with their retirements. Their jobs are over, and now what? I saw this in my own family. Older relatives expect a sort of ROI from the younger people. Yes, they want more time with grandkids, yes they want their children to look after them and do things for them. I understand all of that and that grandkids are a joy to them, but it's not the younger generations' duty to give the older ones purpose. That said, either they are adults or they are not adults. When I became an adult my parents expected me to manage my own time, find work while I was home from college, find hobbies, use my time wisely and not follow them around waiting for them to entertain me all the time. Why can't elderly family members do the same (especially if they are healthy and of sound mind)?[/quote]

Sounds like your parents were not giving you attention you wanted and you feel it's ok to punish them. Maybe it is, but many people had better parents and better relationships.[/quote]

How is encouraging someone to take on new hobbies punishment? I don't understand. Please clarify. I saw it as their duty as good parents to push me to use my time well, but that should go both ways. I have a lot of respect for older people who are living life to the fullest whether they are 65 or 95. Do you want your parents sitting home every day, bored to tears, need more and more meds for cholesterol problems and anxiety because they refuse to work out and participate in the world, waiting for your to ring their doorbell? [/quote]

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