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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As for your different views/ways of doing things.  You are perceived by her and maybe others as more regimented.  I am more like you in my parenting/household style.  My SIL is just like your SIL. Your issues are very familiar to me.  [b]My view is that what I am doing makes me happy, my kids are happy and healthy and that is what matters[/b].  If my kids get fussy, I can usually figure out why (teething, fever) very fast because they are well rested and eat well.  They aren't fussy from being hyped on sugar or overtired.  My neices and nephews are hyper and whining a lot and my SIL has no idea why.  So, to me, there are real benefits to my method versus hers but that is my choice, and hers is hers. [i] I guess for me, I am there with you about the food and laundry.  Eating healthy and doing chores sets an example for children.--practice what you preach and all that.   And, feeding bad foods a lot is BAD--just like letting a kid eat candy all day is bad.  No one would quarrel with the latter but the former is supposed to be respected as a legitimate choice?  BS. [/i] [/quote]

I'm the PP who posted just above you.  I agree with your choices.  I've said earlier that I have many of the same concerns that she does.  The bolded quote is correct.  However, when it comes to the italics quote, you 100% get to decide what is best for your family.  And SIL 100% gets to decide what is best for her family.  And frankly, it really isn't your or OP's business unless the SIL asks or makes it a topic of conversation.  If SIL doesn't ask for unsolicited advice, keep it to yourself.  And judgemental comments and snide asides just make you a bitch whether you are right or not.  Do what's right for your family and don't interfere or obviously judge someone else for doing what's right for their family.[/quote]

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