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[quote=Anonymous]OP--you are getting a lot of crap from people.  I admit, I haven't read all of the comments but lots seem to be telling you to chill out.  I think that it is very tough when married relations are very different.  We are supposed to be "family" but we aren't.  So you may not feel as free to tell her what you think as you would to your brother.

As for your different views/ways of doing things.  You are perceived by her and maybe others as more regimented.  I am more like you in my parenting/household style.  My SIL is just like your SIL. Your issues are very familiar to me.  My view is that what I am doing makes me happy, my kids are happy and healthy and that is what matters.  If my kids get fussy, I can usually figure out why (teething, fever) very fast because they are well rested and eat well.  They aren't fussy from being hyped on sugar or overtired.  My neices and nephews are hyper and whining a lot and my SIL has no idea why.  So, to me, there are real benefits to my method versus hers but that is my choice, and hers is hers.  I guess for me, I am there with you about the food and laundry.  Eating healthy and doing chores sets an example for children.--practice what you preach and all that.   And, feeding bad foods a lot is BAD--just like letting a kid eat candy all day is bad.  No one would quarrel with the latter but the former is supposed to be respected as a legitimate choice?  BS.

As for the refrigerator, I think you are just so bugged by you SIL that everything she does or doesn't do irritates you.   I totally get that too.  You NEED to spend less time with her so that you don't get irritated so fast.  And also, try to just accept who she is.  Even if she rolls her eyes or cracks jokes when you put your kids to bed.  I do believe that type of behavior is a offensive defense mechanism.  She is insecure and lashing out. [/quote]

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