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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, firstly, 13 is not too young to be searching out porn. Secondly, I think you and DH should both talk with your son, either individually or together. Eye contact for embarrassing discussions is very hard, so don't insist - talking while driving in the car is a good time. Thirdly, I would stress to DH that porn is acting. Yes, they're really having sex, but this is NOT at ALL an accurate representation of what sex looks like between two people who greatly care for each other. Explain to him that often these people are meeting each other just a half hour before they start shooting. That they are hired because they have bodies that look the way they do naked - so most men don't have such big penises and most women don't have such big breasts (and that there are a LOT of implants involved in porn). Explain that when "regular people" have sex, there's a TON more emotion involved. Porn stars have sex with their costars and walk away at the end of a four-hour shoot to never talk again, unless they are paired up to work together again. In regular life, you have sex with someone you want to make love to, and since you want to make love to that person, you will want them to be in your lives. I'd also explain that in porn videos, they STOP ROLLING multiple times to fix things, and that doesn't happen in real life. They stop to fix hair, stop to move lighting, tell people where to put their limbs in order to get the best shots, etc.

Basically, I would break down porn and pull back the curtain on it to make it seem less magical and perfect. I'd stress that all the relationships are business relationships involving sex, and how there are no feelings involved, no emotion. These people are not buying each other birthday cards, or talking late at night about their hopes and dreams. They're not encouraging each other to study hard for tests, and do kind things for their moms. They're just ... having sex. For money. [/quote]

+1 Very, VERY well said PP.[/quote]

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