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OP - what do you do for you?  I'd imagine your husband's long hours make for very little "you time".  What do you do that isn't kid-related, marriage-related, house-related?

By all means, see a doctor.  Maybe you need meds on a long-term basis, or maybe just some short-term meds can help.  Consider your diet, if you'd like.  I've not found any link between my depression and my diet, but YMMV.  I'd strongly suggest a counselor.  Getting to the root of what made me angry (a lack of time to myself and identity outside of mother/wife) was more helpful than any other remedy.  Yes, you have nice things.  Yes, you're "doing it all right".  That doesn't mean that's enough to make you happy.[/quote]

Hi, this is OP.  I have very little for me.  I haven't physically seen my husband since Sunday, and won't tonight either.  I know it's a HUGE part of it.  Admittedly he does nothing besides work and pay bills, I do EVERYTHING from grill to clean to take out the trash to everything, and he would agree.  I think 95% of the time I can deal, the other 5% I lose my shit.[/quote]

Sounded familiar, hence my question.  Hopefully his crazy-long work hours provide enough income that you can outsource some of your least favorite chores.  While I agree with the poster above who advised against running for a "mother's little helper", a *mothers helper* might be a good idea for you.  Any local kids looking for some summer money?  Even just getting a break for a couple hours a day can help.  A bit of contract renegotiation with your husband might be in order, too.  There's probably not much he can do about the long hours, but there's probably a lot he can do to make things easier for you when he's home.

Again, I really do recommend counseling.  Coming to terms with your anger is important, and having another pair of eyes to help you see solutions can be a great help.[/quote]

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