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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I like what you've done.  "Welcome to join us" is perfect.
And since you aren't paying their way, they won't feel obligated to return the favor.  Just friends getting together.

Perfect.
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I agree with this.  The entire exchange began with the other mother issuing an invitation for a play date, the offer of joining at the pool was the alternative to declining their invitation.  So it was more of a mutual agreement to do this activity-- very different from hosting a party at the pool, for example.  I think it's especially fine since it seems that the other mother is accompanying the pool family.  If the pool mother picks up the other child to bring to the pool, it may be more appropriate to pay for the child.  Same as if going to the movies.  I'd probably pay for another child's ticket if he or she came with us to the movies, but if the other parent were there also, I'd expect them to pay for their own.

I also think it depends a little on the relationship between the two families.  With people we didn't know as well, it would feel more like hosting and we'd more likely pay their guest fee.  With close friends, it would feel like a mutual activity with each family paying for themselves.[/quote]

I'm with this.  In our town, there are no "free" or "low cost" pool options, so we don't belong to one.  I'm always thrilled when my kids are given the opportunity to go to the pool, and will happily pay.  I think mentioning the fee up front is fine.  It does seem similar to me to going to the movies or playing mini golf.  If the whole family is coming, they can pay for themselves.  If it's just one child on a play date, I'll pay for them.[/quote]

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