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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here!  I do love the family tradition and it's been meaningful to both sides of our family.  I wouldn't change the spelling, out of respect, and I want to use one of the first names, Cora, Norah and Laura (sorry about the rhyming!) with one of the aunt's names for the middle name.

Not to sound venal, but besides the tradition issue, there is also a bit of a financial incentive as well.

I am falling in love with Norah Rose![/quote]

Financial incentive??[/quote]

NP here. For families with money-- especially old money and proud traditions, it is common to leave one's namesake a portion of one's estate. It's a continuity thing.

My family's old-money was all gone by the time I came along (irresponsible drunken grandparents' generation squandered it), but the dear lady for whom I was named gave me a little trinket every time we went to visit-- a locket, a brooch, a piece of antique silver. She did it to let me know that I was part of something larger and older, and to show that she appreciated having been remembered in a subsequent generation. I have every little thing still, and when I show them to my daughter, I tell her about my great-aunt and re-tell her stories and try to describe how soft her cheek felt... like many-times-used tissue paper and talcum power.

If I had been named Madison or Jennifer, or whatever trendy name, I doubt she would have picked me out of her dozens of grand-nieces for that special attention that I will always cherish. My cousins also enjoyed special relationships with the elder family members whose names they carry.

But don't worry, PP. My family's traditions don't need to mean anything to you. It would be nice if you tried to understand a little, but in the end, well, we've been going strong in our traditions for 300 years (in this country, anyway), and your disapproval changes nothing for us. [/quote]

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