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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If she can't count music, does the song have lyrics?

Ask the teacher if you can videotape her doing the dance.

If it is a beginner dance, it is probably very 8 count-ish.

There should be obvious moments of transitions, which probably go along with the lyrics and specific music crescendos and moments.

Give your daughter cues from the lyrics which match the transitions, so she can have spots in the dance where she can regroup with what she is supposed to be doing.

Your daughter just might not hear the music or beat.  Some kids never do.  Add that to being generally uncoordinated, and it can get tricky.  You need to help her through this, without making her feel worse than she probably already does.

Don't pull her from recital.  That would be heartless, and will stay with her forever.[/quote]

OP here and wow this is great advice and I only wish I had had it weeks ago. The class has ended. There will not be another one and the recital is next week.

We have practiced with the music at home many times. I have watched and encouraged her at home for months now.  Clearly dance is not her thing or at least group dance is not.  The problem is not when she is dancing alone its when she is dancing with the group.

To put this in context of how bad it is, my DD is in the front row of girls.  Instead of facing forward, she turns her whole body almost all the way around and watches the steps of the girls behind her, then turns around forward and does the steps but of course she is now off and when she turns back around the other girls have moved so that one is coming towards her - this is how the collision happened.

For the music teacher - I appreciate what you are saying a music performance is much different from dance. You can easily suck in a larger group music performance and no one will know. Trust me - I did 4th grade band and couldn't play a note and no one was the wiser.

I have decided to not say anything about the recital and just go as planned[b] but I will not watch her performance.  She won't know the difference (big auditorium) and this will keep me from making any critiquing remarks and allow me to just image the best performance ever in my mind[/b]. [/quote]

Well, you definitely wont be winning no mother of the year awards. Bitch yes. I cannot believe a parent would seriously not sit through their childs 
performance. I feel so sorry for your child.

And no matter HOW many people are sitting in this big auditorium, believe me, she WILL be looking for you.

My heart breaks for your daughter. :([/quote]

I would go to her recital.  It is one dance.  OP saw one rehearsal and the child messed up.  Most teachers would/will flip her to the back row unless the choreography has them changing rows so all can be in front for at least part of the show.   If she's always in thr front then ask the teacher to move her before the show. The parent should go to the show-sit in back and it will be over quickly.  Last show of the child's life.  It's not Swan Lake and the corps is on for an hour.  [/quote]

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