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[quote=Anonymous]The grandparents will be there long after the nanny is gone, and that is one grounding relationship that your child will likely cherish in the future. Thinking long term, since you are at work, it's good to have a reliable family presence in your child's life. Even is they seem annoying, life with kids is different from life without, and welcoming grandparents is one way you will need to learn to adjust. You're not doing it for you, nor for the grandparents, but you *are* starting to build a network of support for your child, and that is important.

That said, it does not have to work in the way the in-laws are doing it. I would also feel uncomfortable having someone visit my home in my absence. But if your in-laws are in full strength and of sound judgement, you can have the nanny organize regular playdates, where they visit the GP at their home, have a set time for the GP to stop by and play, or meet at a park or on an outing. Going to the zoo can well start now. Make "Tuesdays and Thursdays" grandparents day, give the nanny their contact information, and let them work out an arrangement that keeps you sane. At 8 months, your baby will soon turn into a toddler, and having the extra hands will be a good thing in the future. Think that one day, they may be able to take on some of the soccer mom activities while you are at work --- one of the greatest challenge to a working mom, you will find out one day.

Unless there is a strong trust issue with your in-laws (along the lines of previous convictions, alcohol, senility, etc), this sounds to me like it's a situation that simply needs you to step in and nudge the interactions in a more controlled way. You don;t have to have them as guests in your home 3 times a week plus weekends, but since you're at work, there is plenty room for them to do. And by all means, involve the nanny, so that she can still be in charge of the schedule. She's the boss of the day after all.

Good luck![/quote]

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