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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dear friend,

I am so sorry that when you said your kid was speech delayed at 14 months I said, "I didn't talk until I was 3."  It is true and I kicked myself the moment it slipped out.  I know it was insensitive.  I have been kicking myself ever since and I am sorry if I made you feel bad.  I love your DS and you.  Please don't hold it against me.

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Well-meaning Mom, really.

So sorry for all these things you have heard.  Sometimes people like me blurt out inanities without thinking first.  If it makes you feel better, I feel remorse afterwards....maybe excessively so since I am still cringing months later.[/quote]

I'm the feeding tube mom.  I'm going to say that while the two comments I posted were annoying, and kind of funny, they also both came from people who loved me and love my kid.  My mom, the one who asked if I was going to do something about his cough, was also the one contributing to his college fund when other people were lowering their expectations.  She learned how to use the feeding tube, and the nebulizer, and pulled up all the carpets in her house so he could visit more often.  My friend, the one who told me I was lucky, also called me a lot and talked about regular baby things when other moms couldn't see past the medical issues.  She brought me home cooked meals and clean clothes in the hospital.  Just like my other "friends" she didn't always know what to say, but instead of just not calling or avoiding me in the hallway, she tried and I'll always appreciate that, even if she did stick her foot in her mouth sometimes.

So, don't beat yourself up, it's natural, when someone you care about is obviously worried about something, to try and decrease their worries.  It's annoying when you're on the receiving end, but it's not a big deal.  [/quote]

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