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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you need to tell DH to go hang out with his dad on his own. You also, when dealing with DH's mom, be confrontational. "Gladys, it's enough. I understand you are excited to see Aidan, but if you rip the baby out of the Ergo, I will rip him right back and he and I will leave. Also Gladys, the comments about me to Aidan must stop immediately. I LOVE my baby. I love holding him, I love looking into his eyes, and I don't feel the need for a break from him as much as you seem to insinuate I do. Gladys you will ALWAYS be Aidan's grandma, but *I* will always be his mother, and we are NOT in a Lifetime movie here where you get to have me killed off so you'll somehow magically get to raise him. This stops now." [/quote]

Easier said then done. Problem is that most likely when OP is with MIL, there are other family members around and it's difficult to be THAT confrontational. OP, you need to be direct and firm, maybe use some unexpected humor or you can do what I do and just IGNORE. When MIL comes at you and tries to take away DS, just turn away from her and say "OH! excuse me, I forgot something upstairs!" and turn and immediately walk upstairs with DS in Ergo. MIL may try baby-snatching again later, but keep doing the same thing, so then say something like "Give him a minute please he is grumpy." Or say "Oh I have actually not held him that much today, DH has been, so I would like to hold him a little longer." AND WALK AWAY IF POSSIBLE AND CHANGE SUBJECT.

OP are your inlaws of another culture? Mine are and I have to see them every weekend. MIL ALWAYS COMES ON ALL FAMILY OUTINGS. I know in my situation, FIL would never be allowed to go out with DH without MIL coming along. WHen I was first married, I used to say "Let's just go out with your dad and my DH would laugh at how absurd it was that I thought we could see his FIL without seeing MIL too.

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