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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP,

[b]Why do you and baby have to go over 2xs per week? [/b] Your husband can see his parents anytime he likes.  Why do you have to go every time.  My MIL lives locally and I am down to seeing her maybe 2 or 3 times per year.  Christmas, her birthday, and my daughter's birthday.  My husband sees her much more frequently.

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OP I am in a similar situation with a similar MIL/FIL dynamic. MIL is always trying to separate me from my kids, esp with my first when he was a baby. I think she actually thought it WAS HER BABY in the beginning. She apparently had made arrangements with my DH (without telling me) BEFORE the baby was born that the baby would go to her house every weekend and stay there for the weekend. She seemed thrown off when she realized I was  EBFing and pumping and could not be away from the baby very long. She kept saying things like "When are you going to let me take the baby for the weekend?" and this was when baby was like 4 weeks old!!

My DH doesn't really have much a of a relationship with his mother but adores his father, who is very nice. But DH has learned over the years to tune his mother out and doesn't understand why I can't do the same.

MIL also told DH that "grandmothers are more excited about babies than their own mothers."  DH also defended his mother at one point saying "This is her dream". Nevermind that it was MY DREAM and MY CHILD. HA! At one point, MIL was driving me so insane right after my first child was born, that I said I did not need help (she had been coming over everyday for a week) and she called my DH and cried and said I was trying to separate her from her grandchild.

Anyway, OP, I am also "required" to see my in-laws once a week and I can't really get out of it. It's a precedent that has been set. The rest of the family also sees them once a week too. My inlaws are also of another culture where seeing them once a week is a given, in fact, they don't think it's enough!

All I can say is BOUNDARIES, BOUNDARIES, BOUNDARIES[/quote]

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