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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP,
You've already gotten a lot of great comments and it sounds like you're considering them all thoughtfully, which is great. No matter what you do, I am sure you will make the best decision possible. I just wanted to throw (yet another!) variable in there, because I hadn't seen it mentioned:

I'm single, so I don't have the option not to work. However, I am extremely fortunate in that my parents have been more than willing to help me with childcare with my baby (he's now six months old). As important as it is to be present when your children are babies, I feel like the time when you really can't "outsource" childcare is when they hit their tweens and teens.

Right now my son seems to love me and my parents equally. His needs are important but they're very easily met with lots of hugs, kisses, and food. :) But once kids get older, and need to be shuttled to a million afterschool activities, and may want to talk to you about sex, or being bullied, or friends pressuring them to drink or take drugs...that's the kind of connection that you can't expect a child care provider or a nanny or even loving grandparents to provide. A tween or teen really needs Mom and/or Dad, even if they think they don't!

So, it may turn out that if you stay in the workforce now, even with the child care expense, you or your husband may be in a better position to pull back in a decade or so when your kid(s) start going through some of those emotional times. Not that you'd need to stop working entirely at that point, but maybe you'd be financially stable enough for one of you to go part time, or work some kind of flex schedule that allows one of you to be at home when the kid(s) come home from school.

I'd love to be at home with kid but I also know that his babyhood is only one time in his life when he will really need me. Just another thought! [/quote]

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