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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, the invitation is correct from an etiquette standpoint. 
However, if you are Jewish, it's traditional to include the groom's parents. Is this why you are so upset? [/quote]

We ARE Jewish. Well, except the new DIL who is only converting. Dh and I just feel horrible. Our son said no to us coming to their eloping. It's embarrassing to think our friends and family may ask why we aren't listed on the invite. [/quote]

If this was posted 5 years ago I would swear you're my MIL.  I'm not Jewish.  DH is. His parents live across the country and had the same reaction to our wedding invite, when my parents paid for 90% of it (with us paying the other 10%, not them).  That was the beginning of my discomfort with my in laws.  Why was our wedding invitation about them?  And why should I ignore proper etiquette, which I wanted to stick to for our wedding, because of them?  My parents who were footing the bill on top of it were not interested in sharing top billing on the invitation.  It created a lot of stress.  Fast forward to five years later and i can't stand my in laws.  Everything is about them.  Everything we do hurts their feelings.  I don't spend literally every waking moment of a visit with them, and I must not like them enough, their feelings are hurt.  We don't fly out for every birthday, christmas, etc and again, it must be because we don't like them enough or think something isn't good enough.  It never stops.  Tread carefully, MIL, and remember, this wedding is NOT about you, your husband, or your feelings.  It's about your son and your new DIL and celebrating their happiness and their decision to spend their lives together.  [/quote]

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