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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You don't have a balance.  Your child is very young and you are already "expecting" him to go to an ivy league school.  Perhaps you are comforting yourself over his diagnosis with this idea but it isn't healthy.  [b]of course it is possible that he will end up at an ivy league school but it is very, very unlikely and your expectations will not help him and can do damage.[/b]
I did not have any parental pressure or expectations and I went to an ivy league school.  My children will not, I believe.  My NT child who is a junior has very specific, other plans and my DC with AS has not interest and, though very intelligent, needs a different environment.

Your parenting is not measured by where your children go to college.  [/quote]

I don't know why you feel the need to tell me that my expectations are "unhealthy" and will harm my child:  My child is young so why lower my expectations simply b/c of a diagnosis?    Like you said, it's far in the future.   There has been no indication why I should lower my expectations.  You seem to be saying that since my child has AS - I should give up hoping that he does as well as similar people in my family.

When DS got the AS diagnosis our developmental pediatrician told us to "lower our expections" simply b/c of the diagnosis.  While I respect and like our developmental pediatrician, I will "lower my expectations" when my child shows me that I need to lower them.  For now, DC is healthy and happy:  I measure my parenting by that.

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I agree with the ivy mom. In a way, its about not putting pressure to perform but also not limiting them by already saying, "there's no way you'll make it"

It seems like that is the attitude often.

And really, who knows how far a kid can go with love and support? That shouldn't be limited b/c of a dx, imho.

I am now focusing on all the things my kid *can* do and its amazing how that perspective changes things -- i'm way more hopeful and optimistic now about the future.

I don't know what the future entails for my son, but I can only imagine its bright, though i am aware it won't be easy, cause life ain't ever easy... :)

Off my soapbox now :)[/quote]

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