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[quote=Anonymous]My guess is:

He's probably not having an affair. He would probably call you ahead of time to spew his story if that was the case.

He may be innocently getting caught up in the moment of having fun with a friend or friends. If that's the case, he should have learned from the first time that it occured.

It does sound like he may be letting his drinking cloud his judgement. I wouldn't necessarily consider him an alcoholic, but if his actions don't change, I would think that it could go down that path in the future.

I have had occassions in the past where I start drinking while having fun with friends and / or family and time gets away from you. I have also experienced being caught off guard by alcohol making me extremely tired. I get up really early in the morning and have a very stressful job. I think it has real negative effects on my health to begin with. Maybe he has a similar schedule.

In any event, at least he isn't trying to drive home drunk or sleep deprived. He could end up killing people (including himself) trying to do that.

I have been with my wife for about 20 years combined. We have children. I personally do not act this way and I wouldn't appreciate it if she did either. Neither one of us has been big into drinking, which probably helps. We do have a pact that if either of us is going to drink than the other will not drink at all if we are out and plan to drive. The same hold true for transporting the children. If we have had one sip we let the other drive or don't drive at all. It may sound overly cautious, but it's a system that works for us.

You probably need to have a face to face conversation with your DH and tell him your concerns. Ask him if he plans to continue this course of action. Explain to him the importance of being accessible at all times in case there is ever an issue, as you have a child together and someone has to be the guardian and make important decisions. Emergencies happen when you least expect them. If someone is unaccessible or incoherent when you need them most it could be devastating. [/quote]

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