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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a therapist, and it there's one thing I've learned through my work it's that everyone has a story and at some point feels at least a little "crazy" and could use some help. Yes, some people are better copers than others; some are more fragile in different ways. So what? Some of us are thinner, more intelligent, and more talented in various ways. People vary in terms of their resilience, and so what? That's not a moral issue. It's just life. Also, even the most optimistic, more resilient, "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" sort of person can meet with tragedy or overwhelming challenge in their life. And then what? Should we judge them for it or try to lend a hand up or a sympathetic ear? Which would you rather have, PP?[/quote]

I just wanted to add something. Yes, it's way easier to have sympathy for someone who tries to make positive changes in their life rather than just complain about things. What I've learned is that there are REASONS people get stuck in self-defeating patterns and don't take what seem like obvious steps to improve their situations. These things that keep people stuck are often unconsiocus fears or beliefs that they've learned from childhood or earlier points in their lives. I know it can be super frustrating to deal with whiners, but if you try to see them as "stuck "and doing the best they can to get "unstuck" it is so much easier to have empathy as opposed to judgement.

Okay, getting off the soapbox now.[/quote]

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