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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Darn it" and "What the heck" aren't curse words. To those saying that they are "replacements" for curses and, therefore, just as bad: "Fiddlesticks," "shoot" and "my stars!" are also replacements. Are those off limits also?

OP: Let this one go. Your kids are fine. [/quote]

My kids wouldn't say "fiddlesticks" or "my stars", but I'm not okay with the former, cool with the latter. Also not okay with "shoot".

The OP should let her instincts be her guide. If she's not okay with her children saying those words, she should tell them not to use them. That's it. [/quote]

You have a problem with "fiddlesticks"?!?!?

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Yep, replacement for fuck, but again my kids wouldn't say this word and would probably look at me crazy if I did. Same with shoot (shit). Not sure what "my stars" replaces. [/quote]

Words aside, how do you deal with intent?  Not snarking - just a question.  How do you instruct your kids to deal with impluses of frustration?  What "tools" do you permit?  [/quote]

When my children were younger (less than 3), they ALL cursed. I used to get aggravated, tell them not to curse, etc. It turned into a game and I could almost live by them using a swear word in public to be sassy. Eventually I started ignoring them when they did it. Not getting the response they were after, they stopped. Never had a problem with them again. My children are 4, 10, 13, & 17. As I said earlier, I'm pretty sure they curse outside of my hearing and/or with their friends and I'm cool with that. But they are not allowed to do it front of me and/or other adults. Period.

re: handling it now. With my youngest, she'll usually cry when upset/frustrated and I distract her by asking about something that happened on a recent TV show and/or bring up something funny that happened on our last vacation (DisneyWorld). Getting her to talk about something that interests her usually snaps her out of her funk.

When my older children used to get frustrated they would say "Oh my God" in annoyance. Told them I didn't like that and for them to say "gosh" instead. Had nothing to do with cursing, I just didn't like them using God's name in an annoyed way. [/quote]

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