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[quote=Anonymous]Look, OP, not everybody has a house with a tennis court.  They just don't.

My kids have been to parties at clubs and have been to homes larger than ours.  This is a result of choices that we have made about our family, who works and how much, where we want to live (in a place with less house for the money), and so on.  We actually have a fairly high HHI - but not the top - for our school.  I can't even begin to pretend to be middle class on DCUM.  I'm not sure those enamored of enormous houses, enormous cars, and enormous earrings would even begin to suspect that about us.

I'm guilty of having my kids picked up after school by a nanny (and for having a car just for the nanny to use for her job).  I'm guilty of having my kids in reasonably expensive sports.  I've even been known to buy a designer label or two for the kids, but that's rare.  Turns out those things get messed up on the playground as much as the clothes from Target.

The most precious commodity in our lives, though, is time.  Time with the kids.  Time with each other.  Time to think and laugh and play games in between all the sporting events (and it isn't skiing!).  We're interested in other families who are "real," who are interested in talking about struggles and issues, who want to be real friends.  We're not so much interested in talking about the merits of Park City vs Aspen, or which designer doctor does the best Botox.

If my kid comes to your house and pronounces it small or asks anything along those lines, he would be grounded for a month, and I would be completely shocked.  We have relatives and friends at pretty much every income level you can think of, and we have preached the "plenty of people have more and plenty have less, so stop competing over it already" line from day 1.  My kids are taught to make friends with people, not their things.[/quote]

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