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[quote=Anonymous]OP, DC can be tough. I remember trying to fit in here in my early 20's, which was hard.

I will say you sound like you're really in your own head - overly scrutinizing everything. That's probably what's going on. Do you generally have a lot of anxiety? I see that reflected in some of your posts. It's possible that when you are out, you can't REALLY relax and enjoy yourself, because you're so worried about performing. And, you may inadvertantly be focusing more on what you think people are thinking about YOU than just what they're thinking (or saying!). Try to focus on your would-be friends as people first, and friends to acquire second. Try to get to know them. There are some small things you can do to help yourself be more likeable, including remember their spouses and kids' names, inquire about them. Ask them to coffee, not too often, but persistently. Do a weekend where you invite them to dinner. And keep the drinks flowing when you do! (Unless you don't drink, which definitely eliminates a social lubricant, but if so good for you. :) ).

You can do this. Get out of your own head. Confide in someone at work that you feel like you don't fit in. DON'T make it about how kind you are to everyone else and nobody has a kind word for you, etc, because even if it is 100 percent true, there's no way you can say it without sounding like a martyr.

Good luck to you! [/quote]

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