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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you still love your husband? If not, then do some introspection about that. He deserves to be with someone who loves him. If you don't then let him go. And when you divorce, don't take him to the cleaners. You're the one who dropped the ball here, not him, so he shouldn't be screwed because you flaked on the marriage. [/quote]

Please. You can’t always control who you want to have sex with. What if her DH let himself go? [/quote]

Yeah not OP but my DH totally lacks any self reflection, he views my declining sex drive solely as a “me” problem rather than something he may have contributed to.  First off, he’s totally let himself go and his big belly means that there are few sex positions that actually work anymore.  He doesn’t even try to make himself attractive or get in shape.  And I carry a disproportionate share of the mental load and household responsibilities, despite us both working full time.  Even responsibilities that are supposed to be his he half-a$$-es, e.g. I cook dinner and he “cleans up” but never wipes down the counters or cleans dirty knives. Like literally every night I will come back down and there are crumbs and dirty chopping knives laying about, sometimes the pots and pans as well. He also doesn’t acknowledge things like Mother’s Day or my birthday, and whenever my kids are having a tough time he walks away leaving me to deal with them.  But he totally seems to miss the connection that his lack of effort would have any influence on my attractiveness to him.  And FWIW I am getting hormone levels checked and hopefully HRT could help but it’s not going to solve the above issues.[/quote]

A weekly house cleaner visit would erase much of your resentment. They don’t cost very much. [/quote]

DP. not really. [/quote]

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