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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you genuinely not get that there's a difference between a grinder and someone who works really hard because they are genuinely and intrinsically passionate about some cause other than prestige or self-promotion?

I've known both types of students. It can be really hard to tell them apart on the surface. I'm sure admissions committees make mistakes all the tie. [/quote]

My first gen immigrant parents worked really hard to provide a better quality of life for future generations. They didn’t have the luxury of being “genuinely and intrinsically passionate” about their jobs. It sounds like you would use term “grinder” pejoratively regarding people like them?[/quote]

Oh, give me a break. I'm actually first gen, both as an immigrant and as the first gen to attend college. And yet I was still raised with values besides caring about money and self-promotion and can tell the difference between a grinder/striver/curator and an intrinsically motivated person with genuine scholarly interests.[/quote]

You didn’t answer my question. Are my parents bad people because they worked jobs they didn’t love?[/quote]

Not the PP.
Most people work jobs they dont love. Read all those posts in Jobs and Careers. 
Then read the posts from parents taking huge paycuts or career dead ends in order to have a decent family life.
Your parents aren't bad, they are probably taking some level of satisfaction and pride in their work. We all should.
What is bad is to position it like it is some huge "sacrfice" and lather on the guilt to the kids. 
I dont know a single non-Asian family that talks about what a huge sacrifice it was for the parent to SAHP because it was what worked best for the family or the parent working insane hours and taking on huge work stresses in order to provide financial security.
It is simply called parenting and choices we make.[/quote]

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