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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our 5 month old is in daycare now, my wife recently went back to work but she works a part time hourly job. I’m full time with a hybrid work schedule. She wants me to both drop our baby off and pick her up doing half days because she’s young and my wife is trying to ease her in to it. But this is not working, I have a varied schedule with lots of meetings, sometimes I need to be in the office, and it’s overall very disruptive to my work flow. My wife is part time but sometimes has a meeting in the early afternoon. I’m telling her that if she can’t pick up the baby halfway through the day then we will need to leave her at daycare all day. But she’s afraid of leaving our daughter there for so long. What do we do!!! This is so frustrating.[/quote]

Dude. You need to make it work. Block your diary. Make it known you have pickup on such and such days at x hour and make them respect that. This is what normal workers do.

Signed, another dude who was doing that shit 20 years ago. It's not that hard.

Also, quit whining. Man up already. [/quote]

OK,  I agree but.... I think a schedule needs to be created.  X and Y days YOU pick up baby at 12:30/1pm - and make that both a CONSISTENT day and time so YOU can plan to NEVER have meetings those 2 afternoons - block your schedule, etc. Pick the days when you are at a location closest to work and then will go home to (pretend to) finish work - because working at home isn't going to happen with a baby much of the time.   Then the other 3 specific days your wife picks up - and that means SHE can't have afternoon meetings on her days, just like your days you can't have afternoon meetings.

It needs to be a consistent time so that the childcare and your baby work out a rhythm.  Arriving to find your baby went down 30 minutes ago for a nap isn't helpful, BUT requiring a teacher/provider to keep a baby up way past when they need to sleep "because the parent is arriving soon" means a very sad and cranky baby who has been crying for 20-30 minutes, and that isn't good for baby or for the other children in the program who are listening to a crying baby.

AND... discuss that this will happen for one more month, then baby needs to stay a full day because your job is FULL TIME and you can't just have 2 afternoons you get no work done because you are picking up baby and caring for baby in the house.  Also, you are paying for fulltime childcare, right? That gets expensive.

OR have your wife go back to work 5 days/week but half days if she is part time.  That way the baby is in care only half the day.  OR have baby only go to childcare the days your wife works and stay a full day.  [/quote]

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