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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm one of the PP's.

I mentioned Gottman workbooks.  I've thought about therapy but I don't trust it.  I just don't.  My parents tried it.  It didn't solve problems.  Guess what.  They're still married, in their 80s, with the same problems.  That might be a win?  Nobody made them stay together and my mother's father left her financial means so she could afford to divorce.

I've identified the Gottmann workbooks as where I would start before booking a live therapist.  The analysis and methods make sense to me.  You might find another resource that makes sense to you.

You may be able to find books and materials to browse through at a public library or bookstore.  Or maybe through library e-books.

The woman above who mentioned age 4 as a transition point shares my thinking on when toddlers get easier.   I knew a few people who were divorcing when their kids were between 2-4.  And I always wondered if that made sense because the toddler age is a very stressful age for parents.  Some people are very impacted by being "touched out" and hearing a lot of noise all the time.[/quote]

Gottman wont work for what OP describes. This isn’t a marriage issue. She needs more psychological help. [/quote]

PP.  We don't actually know what is wrong.  However OP has made some requests of his partner that she is unwilling or can't bring herself to accommodate.  She's also not accepting his gestures to try and help.  This can be the subject of couples' therapy.

Anyway, the idea is to find something to read or fill out at home to DIY a bit instead of seeing a counselor (OP says she doesn't want to).  She might do something private on her own time that doesn't cost money.[/quote]

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