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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I told him I was leaving or getting a lover if he didn't get his act together.[/quote]

DP, but same story. Her life is amazing, SAHM because she wants to be, lots of friends and hobby time, etc. We had a terrible year with no sex and I finally told her that fun time is over and we'll be moving to a 50/50 split on everything, and if she can't manage that then she gets kicked out of the house. Things are going great now, she just had to make contact with reality.

Get mad as hell and give your partner an ultimatum that you WILL carry out. Don't get suckered into forever counseling. [/quote]

What’s that mean “if she can’t manage that”?

What were you trying to get her to do 50% of? [/quote]

If she wanted to go the roommate route, then she could do roommate stuff. Pay 50% of the mortgage. Pay her car payment. Pay half the utilities. Pay half the house maintenance. Etc. Didn't turn out that way, thankfully. We had a much happier result, which is that I pay for everything, continue to do lots of chores around the house, and she's down to fkk.

It's simple but not easy.[/quote]

So she didn’t need to do 50% of cooking, planning, cleaning or child rearing.

[b]She just needed to pay you money/ bills or have sex with you more? [/b]

Hmmm[/quote]

Bottom line, yes. We were already well partnered on the co-parenting stuff.

Frankly, I can afford to hire out all of the other things (cooking, cleaning, childcare) and still remain in polite society. What I cannot do is hire out the sex component. And I preferred not to anyway.

Women are delusional if they think their quirky personalities are worth a lifetime of financial support. Barring serious illness, if you aren't putting out then you are no longer a wife.[/quote]

Sounds like she doesn’t work so likely should have called your bluff and done 50/50 plus child support and alimony.
You prob would have outsourced all kid development or care stuff and remarried quickly since sex is your priority.  So really it would have been your mainly first batch of kids taking it on the chin. 
Of course you still have time to do just that! [/quote]

DP sounds like they worked it out and that bothers you so much for some reason. Why is that?
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Unemployed sussed up ladies who lunch don’t bother anyone. [/quote]

lol[/quote]

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