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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What you need is to book a consultation with an attorney ASAP who will advise you about summer travel and custody consequences. And then you can decide whether to hire them, and what to do. But you need legal counsel now before your kids get out of school.

Stay calm and don't react emotionally, OP. Keep your eye on the prize - which is fair custody time and as much money as you can get. Don't forget college costs. UMD/UVA are 40K a year and some private unis are 90-100K a year now.

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The default nowadays is 50/50 parenting time and equal split of marital assets. Unless OP thinks Dad is an unfit parent, that's how it's going to go down. The only question is whether or not you are going to mindlessly spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on counsel fees and years in court to end up in exactly the same place.  Think with your logical brain, not with your emotions.  If the family has established permanent residency in your state, your home is still the family home regardless of what your husband tried to do.  He did not tell you he is going to establish residency for the children in another state.  Don't let people here inflame your emotions even further with pure speculation and demonizing your husband.  If he has been a good and equal parent for your children up to now, then he will do what is in their best interests.  If he has not been, do you seriously think he is going to want to keep and take care of young children for a u length of time as a single parent? Of course not. He will tire of it within a couple of weeks and beg you to take the kids back.  Nothing you have posted indicates he is a diabolical fiend.  Again think with your brain.[/quote]

Not if dad insists on moving out of state! In that case the court will decide whether it is in the best interests of the kids to move or not. OP would have a strong case to show that … but not if her exDH has already taken the kids and enrolled them in school in the other state and established them there. That’s why she can’t let him take the kids there all summer without an emergency custody agreement in place. [/quote]

If they are separating which seems as they are, the dad is certainly allowed to take the kids for part of the summer which is exactly what OP said the dad proposed.  He did not threaten to kidnap them. Op gave no indication he is an unfit parent. [/quote]

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