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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When my husband proposed and asked me relocate with him for a professional program, he told me after his degree we would prioritize whatever I wanted to do and if I wouldn't  move, he was staying put.  My response was I'd support him through the degree and then wanted to stay home with three children. That's what happened. He understood and valued what I saw as my vocation. Would have been equally supportive of me having a career. Married 45 years. Exactly the life i wanted.

Some thoughts: you need to find someone who values you more than money.  I don't know how. Others may have suggestions. 
You need to have the ability to work if necessary.  As with everything, it helps if you have family money/future inheritance. 
 
We were downwardly mobile for 20 years, but were never worried because my family would have been delighted to employ us in a family business.  They even made a counter offer to my husband when interviewing for first post grad job.

Didn't buy a house till I got an inheritance.  Shared one compact car for decades.

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LOL! It was much easier to have a SAHM 45 years ago. Who doesn’t know that?[/quote]

Maybe so, but none of my high school or college friends became stay at home moms. Most have advanced degrees. I dropped out of law school to get married. None of my husband's professional colleagues had stay at home spouses. My parents worried I'd be bored.  In our social group, my choice was unusual.  I don't think it's a better choice than being an employed parent. It was just the life I wanted.  I hope OP gets the life she wants.[/quote]

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