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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s not unreasonable for a man to want a working wife. I would also not go into marriage planning to pull a bait and switch unless you’re okay with the idea of working if he doesn’t agree. If this is truly a dealbreaker for you then you need to keep looking for high earners. [/quote]
OP here. 
Is it unreasonable for a woman to want to be a SAHM? This is only during the kids early years. Why don’t men find it mutually beneficial?
Should I just give up on that wish?
Where did all SAHM here find men who didn’t find it unreasonable?
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You need to date men who share your values, particularly on family and early childhood care. Dh and I met when we were 20 and didn't have kids until 36. In the intervening years, we discussed and prepared for me to sah. Even though I worked and saved for many years, it was a sacrifice to live on one income. We both wanted our kids cared for by us, especially for the first 2 years. I don't regret a day I spent at home with my kids. I met many parents who worked part time and/or flex schedules to minimize day care time and maximize family time. I think that is a good compromise IF the father also wants to care for the kids. That way, you keep a foot in the working world. [/quote]

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