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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I have been following this from the beginning but haven't commented yet. I used to think that I needed a lot more sleep and then I went through grad school with a full time ridiculously busy job and I figured out that I can get by with very little sleep and you just do what you need to do. My DH and I both work a lot and are very busy with other activities, family, etc and we are also exhausted by the end of the day. I find that the busier I am the better I adapt to less sleep. Some weekends or family trips when we don't have as much going on I lay around and sleep way too much and find that I'm more lethargic than when I am going going going. Part of me wonders if you just need some hobbies and other things going on. I agree that working with your doctor on what's going on is critical. And regular exercise is key. I too am not a fan of exercise but it really does help along with a good nutrient rich diet.

Now, all of that said, I am finding it hard to believe that none of the PPs are able to relate to how squeezing in week night sex is sometimes a drag. Give me a break ladies. We have been TTC for a year and sometimes it is a huge drag. But we do it. You just you do what you need to do. We've tried everything - every day, every other day you name it. This month we have done every day straight for the last 10. We love to get busy but that is not our normal rhythm. We are 2-3 times a week kind of a couple, and most of that is on the weekends. Most of this month has been first thing in the morning. If my DH got up way before I normally do, that would be tough and we would definitely have a harder time in the evening. We would still do it, but far less romantically and more of a chore than it's been. We know that our work styles and activities will shift when we have a baby and we are looking forward to that, but for now DH is adjusting to a new role and I am gunning for a long overdue promotion and new role that will set me up well for post-baby life, if we are lucky enough to finally be successful.

Good luck OP and to all of you working on expanding your families.[/quote]

None of the things you mentioned (working a lot, "other activities", grad school) even come close to how tired having a baby makes you. Seriously, come back after you have a kid and you will [i]laugh[/i] at your post.

Give [i]me[/i] a break. OP didn't say TTC sex was a drag, she said she can't function without 9 hours of sleep and is too tired to have sex on weeknights. [b]BTDT moms know that won't cut it with a baby[/b].
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Right, because all babies and families are exactly the same.  Of course babies are exhausting.  The OP gets that.  But the drum beat from all these posts about how utterly dreadful it is are a bit extreme.  Some babies are exhausting and make the first few months (or years) hell.  Some are merely just garden variety exhausting.  Others are actually not all that difficult.

Oh, and as for other things not making you as tired as having a baby?  Although there are many utterly unique aspects to having a newborn, there are plenty of jobs and graduate programs--and residencies and postdocs--that are grueling and unpredictable.  Having a child is an incomparable experience, sure.  To suggest, however, that you can't draw from ANY of your life experiences to help you cope is ridiculous.

OP, I'll echo the other PPs who have recommended starting to exercise.  I can't say enough about the difference it can make.  Good luck.[/quote]

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