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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP My stepdaughter isn’t failing any classes, but there are other requirements for graduation. The thing is that she wants to delay graduation to not complete some of the other requirements, so that she isn’t officially graduated yet, and can instead enroll and graduate at a new school, plus walk at that school too. She still wants to go ahead and do her other senior activities including her graduation party, even if she doesn’t complete school this year. She doesn’t want anyone (extended family & friends) to know about her possibly not finishing this year. She had access to a credit card to order her cap & gown, and it seems super simple, but she didn’t do it for whatever reason. I called the ordering company, but they said to contact the school. Her parents are caring, and she does receive attention from them. [/quote]

PP that is a school admin: Instead of posting here- call the school now.
What other requirements are you referring to?  Senior dues? You can pay them without her.[/quote]

Returning school Chromebook, and chargers. Also, taking senior exams and tests.[/quote]

It sounds like she is self-sabotaging because she is worried about taking the tests, worried about college, worried about all the transitions, who knows. I suggest you focus on the underlying reason, and maybe that she's concealing something.

You say she receives attention from her bio parents but is it enough. You said your DH is not very involved as a parent and that's probably very hard for her at this critical moment. No kid wants to be ignored by their bio parents no matter how nice their step-parents are.[/quote]

OP She’s does have worries about the future. She also just really wants a ceremony, that she can participate in and fully enjoy at the same time. My husband isn’t very hands on. I did most of the hands on ‘parenting” part, but he’s physically and emotionally always there for her. They spend alot of time together, and are very close.[/quote]

You said he isn't very involved! Now you're backtracking because people are calling out that your DH isn't a good parent and you have enabled him.[/quote]
OP. [b]He is a good parent, just not hands on.[/b] He has two older adult kids, who are fully self sufficient and launched.

She’s not special needs. I called the school, and they said that I needed to talk to the grad department/counselor, which I already did, and still waiting to hear back from.[/quote]

Eyeroll. There is no such thing. And lots of crap parents have successful kids so his other two prove nothing.

He needs to step up for his daughter, not dump her problems on you. That's the bottom line here. This is a cry for help.[/quote]

OP. Most women complain about the way their husbands parent, and how hands off they are. So, he’s just like all the other Dads.[/quote]

No, he isn't. Lots of men are much more involved and do the actual work and the hard parts rather than just spending time with the kid.

Since he's such a great dad, what is he doing to help his daughter with this complex situation? [/quote]

He loves his children. He is a great dad. He has done work over the years, just not everything. I don’t think being hands on is what makes you a good dad or not. He did a lot, took them all to their school meetings, doctor appointments, some games, etc. We’re working on solving this together.[/quote]

What is he doing, then? And if that's all true, why did you say he isn't very involved? Because that's the opposite of what you're saying now. Which is it?[/quote]

He did all that, but he didn’t drive them to school most days, or make them meals, or help with their homework, etc.[/quote]

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