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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"What kind of woman do you actually want to date?
The number one most attractive trait a woman can have is low maintenance. Not low maintenance financially. Low maintenance emotionally.
A man that has his stuff together does not care about your degree. He does not care about your job. He does not care about your 6 figure salary. He does not care how many countries you have been to. What he cares about is: Are you pleasant to be around. Can I bring you around my people and not be embarrassed. Can I go to sleep and know you are not going to wake me up at 3am to have an argument about something that happened 3 years ago."

This is off. My DH was married twice before. He's a 6-figure salary earner, as am I. His XW was low maintenance at first because she was just glad he'd agreed to marry and financially support her. Somehow, without a college degree, she was living a UMC lifestyle, thanks to him. But you can't take a woman like that around your 6-figure people and not be embarrassed. She couldn't trade travel stories with them. She wasn't pleasant when they got home after an evening of her feeling intimidated by them. She felt inadequate and would beg to leave as soon as they got there because she knew she was out of her element. He loves that his colleagues, bosses, friends, family are impressed by my education and career, and that they think I'm super interesting and fun. I'm an asset to his career, and I help smooth over any issues with his family. I make his life 10X easier in this respect, whereas his XW was a liability.

And let me tell you, I can't be on the ball at my 8am meeting with an important client if I was up at 3am. A SAHM, OTOH, or someone with an easy job can do that every other night of the week.

He knows that I love him and want to be with him as a choice. I don't need his money or contacts to live the posh life I've built for myself. Does that mean he has to stay on his toes and make sure that I keep wanting to stay? Hell yes, just like I do for him. He knows that I have standards and expectations and that he needs to meet them. Neither of us "needs" the other. We're committed, but nobody is staying because we need the other's gravy train. Do you get how freeing that is? It means that he KNOWS that if I'm there, it's because I sincerely and authentically want him around. I'm not tolerating him and pretending to be low maintenance just because I need access to his Platinum card, since I've got my own. You might think that's the sort of woman you want. And you might find a woman who is great at pretending that she has no needs. But everyone has needs. She's just stuffing hers down so that you'll keep her around. [/quote]

DP. Yet men leave women like you everyday for women like your DH's ex and vice versa. He lied to you. You might be an asset to him, but he is not an asset to you if he lies to you about his reasons for leaving his ex. What do you see in such a manipulator and liar?

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