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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Refusing these on principle is bizarre.

My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point.

But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way.

Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid.

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TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids.

In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around.  [b]I don't want to  do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children. 
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My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries. [/quote]

The bolded makes you mentally unhealthy, OP.

It's not normal to be that way as a parent. I say this as an East Asian foreigner. If you come to the US, you need to accept that the culture will be different and that your children will feel deprived if you wall them up and forbid them from experiencing a little bit of THEIR country's conventions. It doesn't have to be a lot. But your children will definitely remember that their parent was not healthy about this.

If you weren't prepared to think about this from the perspective of your children, you should never have moved to the US, or you should never have had kids.[/quote]

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