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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My friend came to me with the saddest mid-divorce reveal I’ve ever heard. When her only child was born, her DH only had 2 weeks of paternity leave. He didn’t take all of it and went back 2 days early. It was really hard on her and sometimes we still look back on those days pretty ruefully. The worst part was he worked for a Fortune 500 company that changed paternity-specific leave to parental leave that year and gave everyone with a new child 12 weeks, paid. He ended up covering leave for half his team while they still had their own tiny baby at home.

As part of some kind of mediation session during divorce, she found out that he actually had 6 weeks leave and just never took it. Which explained why when she asked him to petition to HR to be grandfathered in or get some kind of additional leave when they changed the policy, he said it was impossible.

I’ve never heard anything quite so specific and awful that wasn’t an affair. [b]She’s asking me if she’s crazy.[/b] Am I ok in validating that this was a supremely messed up act of deception? Why would a father do that?[/quote]

Crazy for what, being upset? She's divorcing this guy, what difference does it make? I mean, if she had found this out and it was shaking up her marriage, then ok, deal with it. But who cares now that they're divorcing anyway? One more reason to be rid of this guy.

For what it's worth, I think your friend is directing her emotional energy into this singular thing because maybe it feels easier than focusing on the bigger issue of her divorce and future life. This is a red herring right now, she should spend her time on more important things. [/quote]

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