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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. Rejection is a part of life, but public rejection does not need to be. If your company is doing layoffs, do they line everyone up and publicly announce who gets to keep their job? If you don’t think that would be appropriate for adults, why do you think it would be appropriate for children?[/quote]

Please stop. This is a ridiculous comment. This happens at most tryouts where players are moved to their respective teams in front of all of the other candidates. I’m sorry your DC was cut or moved down. They will be better for it in the long run. Teaching moment - it will teach them to persevere. [/quote]

You stop. [b]You know nothing about child development or psychology. There is no benefit to being rejected in front of peers. I know of what I speak. That is not a growth experience; it’s an experience that causes shame.[/b] The teaching moment can happen through a conversation between the parent/coach and player when they get cut or moved down. You need to separate the rejection from the public aspect of it. I’m sorry for your children that you are raising them with such little awareness of things that no incan affect them greatly. [/quote]

I am not that parent and I don’t have a psychology degree but I am a little disappointed in this response if you are a professional. My kid is only 11 and has read Victor Frankie “Man’s Search for Meaning.” They understand that any circumstance in their life depends on how they interpret it. My kid does not feel shame because they don’t allow something as silly as an A team and B team determine their worth. They know that any evaluation: grades, tryouts, standardized test, school acceptances, etc. are evaluations at a certain point in time and have no bearing on who they are as people. If they want a different outcome, they must evaluate what they are doing and change. If your child feels shame due to the actions of others, that is a parenting issue that you can now change if you weren’t aware before.[/quote]

I have a doctorate in psychology and your sample size of one does not refute the research on the impact of public rejection in children. Nor did you address the public aspect of the rejection, which is the problem here (not the rejection itself). Any clinical psychologist would agree that what was described here is not at all developmentally appropriate. While it may not be something that would bother your child, we know from research that public rejection is experienced by some kids as humiliation, which can then lead to feelings of shame. It’s a bad practice for anyone who cares about kids’ well-being.  It is not a weakness to feel humiliated; it’s a normal human emotion. While it’s inevitable at some point in life, adults should not take actions that actively contribute to it. [/quote]

Oh boy, a doctorate!  Psychologists are nuts anyway.  [/quote]

It is harder to get into clinical psych PhD programs than medical school. The people doing child development research at top universities are not exactly the same as your average counselor with a Master’s degree.[/quote]

Oh boy, child development research.  So with all that research how is the current generation of kids doing.   Feels like they are mostly social media darlings.  [/quote]

You sound like an uneducated jackass. I’m sure your kids are turning out great. [/quote]

Yep, all millionaires.  Yours PhD Jackass?[/quote]

Well my children are still young, so it’s not their money. But they will be set up well. Be careful with yours, because they clearly didn’t inherit much in the way of intelligence. That might lead to some poor decision making later.  [/quote]

Also, the fact that you chose to use money as an indicator of how your kids are turning out says everything about you. I am guessing you’re a big fan of the Trumps. [/quote]

Sure am, loving every minute of the democratic socialist meltdown.  You?[/quote]

USA is a corporation. As such, I stand to make a lot of money if the status quo isn’t too affected by geopolitical chess moves [/quote]

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