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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have a young June girl, aka currently a 3yr old. It’s a mucky birthday for TT, but all the schools you mentioned should be attainable if you really want to send her to independent k next year. Is your preschool a heavy feeder in Sacred Heart, Nightingale, or CGPS? I just cannot imagine a PSD saying those schools aren’t attainable to the parents of a *three year old.* I know young summer birthdays at all of them and Sacred Heart even has the pre-k option. It doesn’t make sense.

That said, I have a June 2021 girl and we didn’t apply this year. I’ve been through this process and know the schools and have older kids. I cannot stress enough how much social-emotional readiness impacts school. Forget about in kindergarten (but don’t, really— think about the size of these schools, the length of the day, the amount of transitions they go through…) but really think about middle school. This isn’t about academics— it’s about maturity, puberty, executive functioning, social media, and a hundred other things that don’t even exist for us to worry about yet… if your concern keeping her in preschool is academic boredom, 1) you’re at the wrong preschool because a good one will keep a 5s classroom academically engaged and 2) consider the social-emotional possibilities she could confront as the youngest vs the oldest.

With my first I didn’t get it and tried to push the young, quiet, summer birthday (who was reading at 3) through the process because academically, ready! It didn’t work and it was the best thing that ever happened. It really opened my eyes to the social-emotional component of their growth and what a gift it was to let that develop before sending them to kindergarten. Just food for thought from a mom who has walked the path.[/quote]

We have a young July and at our TT school, about half the class with summer birthdays are “young” summer birthdays, the other half from the previous year. In some cases, a few of the younger kids even come across as more advanced than some of the older ones, so it does seem to be very child dependent at least on academics but socially they all get along and have friend groups, and my kid is thriving.

We have yet to go through middle school but so far we are pretty happy with our experience. What are the types of social experiences within for instance puberty or social media do you think gets especially tricky? I would have thought as they get older it evens out even more[/quote]

To be clear, I was never talking about academics, strictly social-emotional. In my experience you see young in k/1 and then it evens out. And then you see it again in 7/8. Your kid is a year younger than many peers. When will the older peers get smart phones? When will they get Snapchat (or whatever iteration of that exists at the time)? When will they maneuver themselves independently around the city? When will they go to the club dances, loft parties, start dating, start drinking… and when will your child push back on you because “peer X (old summer) who is in the same grade as me is allowed to do Y and I should be to.”

It definitely doesn’t even out. [/quote]

Nope. Parent of a June boy. He was tall and smart but socially immature in pre-k. Decided to continue to K rather than holding back. By middle school you have no idea who the older and younger kids are. My kid is now in HS and thinking about his friends it is completely random. It is actually less of an issue than in the suburbs where being late to drive can be an impediment.[/quote]

Did your kid go to private or public? [/quote]

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