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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have a young June girl, aka currently a 3yr old. It’s a mucky birthday for TT, but all the schools you mentioned should be attainable if you really want to send her to independent k next year. Is your preschool a heavy feeder in Sacred Heart, Nightingale, or CGPS? I just cannot imagine a PSD saying those schools aren’t attainable to the parents of a *three year old.* I know young summer birthdays at all of them and Sacred Heart even has the pre-k option. It doesn’t make sense.

That said, I have a June 2021 girl and we didn’t apply this year. I’ve been through this process and know the schools and have older kids. I cannot stress enough how much social-emotional readiness impacts school. Forget about in kindergarten (but don’t, really— think about the size of these schools, the length of the day, the amount of transitions they go through…) but really think about middle school. This isn’t about academics— it’s about maturity, puberty, executive functioning, social media, and a hundred other things that don’t even exist for us to worry about yet… if your concern keeping her in preschool is academic boredom, 1) you’re at the wrong preschool because a good one will keep a 5s classroom academically engaged and 2) consider the social-emotional possibilities she could confront as the youngest vs the oldest.

With my first I didn’t get it and tried to push the young, quiet, summer birthday (who was reading at 3) through the process because academically, ready! It didn’t work and it was the best thing that ever happened. It really opened my eyes to the social-emotional component of their growth and what a gift it was to let that develop before sending them to kindergarten. Just food for thought from a mom who has walked the path.[/quote]

OP here - did you guys end up at a TT after waiting for a year?

My issue with keeping her in this preschool is not just exmissions but also the fact that they don't see her strengths at all, or so it seems from the conversation we had with them. It really seemed like she was disengaged at school and didn't speak much. [/quote]

Yes, we ended up at our 1st choice TT the following year.

What have parent teacher conferences been like? Was she there for 2s or did you just start this year? Have her teachers ever said anything to you? Is there a way you can circle back to them in a productive manner and say that you want to work with them to make sure the child you know at home matches the one that shows up at school? What sort of support might she need, etc. Schools love "parents as partners." You can fight them or you can be the neck that turns their head to your kid.

Another option (since contracts are likely already signed), is put her in public and apply her to 5s programs in the fall for the following year (I can tell you the schools with robust programming). Or apply from public kindergarten.

I'm sorry. It is nearly May and I would feel completely blindsided by this if everything up to this point had been great.[/quote]

Do you mind sharing some of the 5s programs you recommend?[/quote]

Sure. Any particular neighborhood?[/quote]

We can do both UES and UWS so would love to hear recs[/quote]

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