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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are 15 years in, 2 kids, both avoidant, both uncommunicative. Dealing with depression, anxiety, SN kids. Don’t have the bandwidth to even get myself help. Has anything helped you? I can’t leave, but my mental health is rapidly tanking. I am utterly unsupported. Tired of being the only one who’s learning about psychology/relationships regarding myself, my family. No family to talk to, no local friends, not even working right now. I feel so lost and navigating this world as a woman with a partner who doesn’t GAF about the world we live in or is too chicken to show up. Please tell me some of you have come back from this.[/quote]

Do you have your own money? A pre nup? If not, why aren't you working when you're married to someone you hate?[/quote]
You mean married to someone who doesn’t care about her whatsoever AND cannot provide care to her or to the child. [/quote]

What's the difference? I'm not questioning her hatred for him. [/quote]
“Not caring about someone” is a choice, he is opting out. He doesn’t care what OP thinks, does or needs.  Why is he opting out?  You may never know- it’s a mix of not caring, being selfish, and inabilities.

“Cannot provide care” means he is incompetent or incapable of providing care, no matter what his intent, or what he tries, or if he never tries, it will not happen or be productive or effective. The whole, can’t lead a horse to water and make it drink.

What the above means for OP is that needs to build a life that does not depend on this guy.  He cannot or will not be helpful or involved. 
And then she needs to reevaluate if she wants to continue in this sort of marriage or not. [/quote]

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