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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for the feedback. We are in the process of setting up a budget system that allows her more control. She's 13 and I suspect that she does want more independence. I dont understand why she's mad that we didn't pay full price for the Lululemon clothes.
Its like she's associating the quality with the cost. Which I can understand if the choice is between two different brands. Why would we not take advantage of a sale at a brand that usually costs more? 
To the pp that asked about the phone. Yes, I think she consumes too much youtube (no TikTok) which is adding to the problem. 
My bigger problem is that she doesn't seem to want to work for money. I've asked her what she's willing to do to earn spending money and she's yet to come up with anything. 
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At 13, she isn’t capable of earning much money beyond maybe a once off dog walking or something from a nice neighbor.  Hold firm. Keep doing what you are doing and don’t cave to her consumerism.  She is allowed to be angry and feel how she wants about it.  However, she may not be disrespectful toward you because she is angry and if she is, give her consequences. [/quote]My 12 yo hung flyers and landed a couple of regular babysitting gigs.  She's saved up over $500 from babysitting.[/quote]

Who is hiring an unknown 12 yr old to baby sit based on a flyer?[/quote]

Presumably someone did. She could have references. The point is, there are ways this kid can earn money if they want more or different stuff than mom and dad will pay for more than they want not to work. Be a mother's helper when the mom is home and work up from there. Or 2 kids knocked on my door the other day offering to wash my car. Shovel snow, pull weeds, whatever.[/quote]

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