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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, OP...that was quite a boundary she crossed asking you. I'm sorry you were put in this situation. I imagine the fear of tension if you say no makes it uncomfortable at best.

That said, you still have to say no if you aren't comfortable. She was dealt a crummy hand of cards but it's not your job to fix it if you aren't 100% on board.[/quote]

What "boundary" did she cross? She asked OP. There's no indication that OP ever discussed this before with her sister. OP should absolutely feel free to say no, but the sister did not do anything wrong by asking.

In the LGBTQ community, it is very common for people to ask family members to [b]donate gametes[/b]. I'm a lesbian going through IVF with a donor from a sperm bank because I do not want to ask family, but there are a lot of great arguments that using a friend or family donor is the most child-centered way to do things. [/quote]

See how you are already trivializing the attachment? It’s a no for me[/quote]

I’m trivializing the attachment by saying “gametes” instead of “egg and sperm”? Okay…[/quote]

Absolutely. Donating eggs is not nutting in a cup. Egg retrieval is extremely taxing emotionally and physically. Trying to trivialize and dehumanize this contribution as if the sexes are interchangeable is complete disrespect[/quote]

So it's nothing to do with the genetic and emotional attachment, which is what you said? Because the genetic contributions are identical. It's about the invasiveness of the procedure? If so, that's not remotely what you said and not what I was responding to.

As everyone here has said, you are obviously free to decline and should decline with zero guilt if you don't want to do it. No one is forcing you to donate your eggs. Egg retrieval isn't nothing, but it's also not even close to the worst medical procedure I've ever had. [/quote]

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