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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is tough. I don't know how to say this in an appropriate way, but I feel like a crop top on a 95lb 5'4'' middle school girl looks very different than it does on a 130lb 5'4'' middle school girl, which is fine but unfortunately presents some challenges with attention and perception that no 12 year old girl should have to contend with, either overtly or implied. I have sons but I was the 130lb version and dressing without guidance or restriction came along with some cynical and sad downsides for me, personally. I don't envy the situation from anyone's perspective, OP. But I do think you have a point about MS vs HS. [/quote]

My mother put me in tshirts that swam on me to try to disguise 5'4" 135lb DDD in 8th.  I promptly pulled it up, twisted, and tied to create my own crop top, making it worse than anything I would have bought for myself.  Since my pants were also too big, they rode low and exposed way too much... but i had no guidance in appropriate clothes that fit.

This is precisely why I allow anything that fits dress code and require that any clothes they want that don't fit dress code must be purchased while with me (and have followed through and donated things that "appeared").  It gives me the opportunity to have the discussion in the moment about when/where those clothes can be worn, whether it's a reasonable cost for that type of clothing, and whether the kid really wants to spend that much money in that way.  All the while I can reinforce why I don't pay for clothes who don't meet dress code.[/quote]

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