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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You wear a crop top with high waisted pants and have barely any skin show. Or the same top with low rise pants/skirt and it looks trashy.

[b]Mostly, it's the girls not knowing how to wear the fashion.[/b]

Overall though, if you don't let it in the house, less chance a crop will be worn. Not perfect. Generations have changed at school or removed something to look different at school, without parent knowledge.[/quote]

This is true.  But I think some of the 12 year olds want to show off especially to the boys. 
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My daughter still thinks boys are disgusting idiots as an 8th grader. But she loves to look like every other girl that is hearing Lulu, Alo, FP movement, hollister and aerie. While I know she and her friends “theoretically” like boys, [b]they seem to be dressing for each other and not to get boys attention.[/b]

You are correct that some girls want to show off for boys. But I don’t think that is the case for any 12 year old girl in a crop top and 2.5 inch lulu shorts. And I say this as a woman who was boy crazy at age 12. My daughter and many of her friends don’t seem to have the same agenda about boys as myself and my friends in the 1980s when Daisy Dukes, a crop top and wearing a high pony with a swatch around it was all the rage.[/quote]

OP here. I know exactly what you mean. It’s because she sees other girls wearing this. She is heavily influenced by peers. I wish we had uniforms.[/quote]

I also have a 12 year old DD, and I say no to any clothing that is sexualized - while she is dressing to mimic other girls, I am not going to allow her to follow that trend when it’s really about specializing bodies (which they are too young to be doing).

We are looking for a private school with a uniform for high school - at my DD’s request. She finds all the judgment about clothes and style and brands exhausting and awful - and it’s from other girls. Her current school has a pretty loose dress code, but the pressure is still a lot to dress in the right clothes and fit in.

I know that’s how it’s been for a long time, but I don’t think parents just reinforcing this norm is good for our girls. Their clothes aren’t a form of self-expression, just another way for them to judge each other. [/quote]

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