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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Kid spends more time on youtube than on school work. Laptop is homework-only and phone has parental controls, but he still manages to log hours on youtube daily and is not motivated to do anything without 10000 reminders and negative consequences.

I am beginning to think I would rather prioritize increasing my own retirement savings over useless lessons for things he asked for and then does not practice, or fights over practicing. This includes sports and music. I am done taking him out for restaurant dinners. Contemplating telling him to get a summer job instead of paying for sleepaway camp. I am not even sure I will pay for the "best college he gest into" if that means paying top dollar for a third or fourth rate private school. He can go to our very medium state school if he won't buckle down and show some initiative with the opportunities given to him.[/quote]

Your kid sounds like me when I was in high school. I ended up getting into an OK college where I found my footing (and was diagnosed with ADHD). I attended a T-14 law school, did a federal appellate clerkship, and have a successful legal career in government. Typical UMC lifestyle. Married, three kids, own a home.

I can't imagine where I'd be if my parents had "divested" from me and decided that my learning and attention difficulties rendered me unworthy to enjoy a restaurant meal with the rest of my family. [/quote]

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