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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, is your kid a joiner? Are they going to school with interests and activities they know they want to pursue? Have they traditionally made friends easily? Do they like socializing?

If the answers to any of these questions is no, I’d be hesitant to go with a single. If the answer to all are yes and your kid wants a single, then I don’t think there’s much downside.[/quote]

I agree with this (and with the PP who mentioned that this decision is kid-dependent). Adding my perspective as a psychologist specializing in anxiety: Almost all of my clients with social anxiety who have headed off to college over the years have initially believed that they needed a single. I very rarely endorse this for kids with social anxiety because the urge to isolate and avoid social interaction without any social pressure to leave the room is a slippery slope for many kids. Even when a roommate isn't ideal, there's something to be said for the social pressure of having someone in the room who will know whether or not you're there all the time. Having a roommate flushes kids out of the room and into the world more.

But for kids who are going to go out and join things anyway, no big deal either way.[/quote]

Thank you for this perspective![/quote]

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