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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tell her L is a social climber and help her make new friends. L is not her friend. [/quote]

Do not do this. Just because a kid doesn't want to be OP's DD's friend does not make them a social climber.[/quote]

That is true, but L is a social climber. [/quote]

That's OP's perception but she hasn't offered any evidence of that. Is OP's DD or her family low status? Are the kids L is now friends with high status? OP says that L and her DD are not "cool" but that's a totally subjective assessment and we don't know what that means.

For all we know, L and OP's DD grew apart because L is into video games and OP's DD doesn't play them, and now L hangs out with friends who play video games. Is that social climbing? No. It's just normal self selection based on interests. OP might perceive the video game kids as "cool" but that's not an objective fact.

I say this as the parent of a kid who is never "cool" because she never has mainstream interests. Or she'll acquire mainstream interests but like 6 months after all the other kids do. If a child dropped her as a friend because she still listens to K-pop Demonhunters and everyone else moved on from that in 2025, I wouldn't view the other child as being a social climber, I'd view it as the typical and fairly meaningless lemming behavior of young kids. I would not make a big deal about it with my DD and I definitely would not go labeling a kid who did that a "social climber" just because they are worried about what's cool and my DD isn't, really.

But my DD doesn't freak out about that stuff either because she has learned that sometimes other kids don't find her cool and that's okay -- there are other things to be than cool. It's not an important metric. Most of the kids trying to be cool actually aren't cool, either, btw.[/quote]

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