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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]There are multiple cultures and religions in which it’s common for the daughters to live at home with their parents (not even attend college and work like your daughter is doing) until they meet a man to marry. I’m not sure why you’re acting like this is the end of the world or some alien concept.[/b]

Given her clear enthusiasm for marriage, you should honestly just be glad that she has shown some restraint by not running off and eloping as soon as she turned 18. I’ve heard those stories, too.[/quote]

Name a single 1st world country where this is the case?  [/quote]
The United States of America. Maybe not the people that you’re around on a daily basis but there are plenty of families/women (of various backgrounds) here that do that. They just don’t typically advertise it on social media. I grew up in the Satmar community in New York, and this was common.

I’m sure that it also happens in England, Australia, Canada, etc.[/quote]

Give me a break...you are referencing a niche, random religious sect where it is common in those groups but not common at all in the country as a whole and not "plenty".  It's safe to say that OP is not from those groups, nor is her daughter.

All that said, OP basically stated she almost would have preferred if her DD didn't attend college (and she could save the significant $$$s) if this was the route she was going to take.
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It really doesn’t matter if you’re from a group or religious sect. People convert all of the time. Everyone (barring extreme circumstances) is free to choose the life that they want as an adult. I chose to leave my community. OP’s DD is free to join that life if she wants to.

I do agree that it would have been financially smarter to not attend college, but her DD already accepted the loans. There’s really nothing that can be done about it now. They’re not going to let her off the hook for them. She’s either going to have to drop out, get a full-time job, and start paying them off, or she’s going to have to finish college and then start paying them off.

Part of having kids is accepting that they may make choices that you don’t agree with or understand.[/quote]

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