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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a feeling that your main worry is that you are “spoiling” her by providing emotional support? Well it’s not so. Give her what she needs now and she’ll move on once she gets enough of what she needs. 
She does sound like some ASD kids I know so maybe you can line up an eval for her. 
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No, I just think I am enabling bad habits of endless ruminating over no friends while not actually trying to make friends and it will mean zero independence in the long run the way I see some other adults be which is so unhealthy. [/quote]

After reading your replies, what you’re not modeling is empathy. Your DD may have social anxiety and if you don’t it’s very hard to relate to what she’s going through. She’s reaching out because she’s struggling. Would she be open to seeing a therapist when she’s home for summer break? That could really help her develop some tools that can help her going forward. [/quote]

I have a lot of empathy in the sense I do get that it upsets her, and I do talk to her daily, extensively, try to play cheerleader, but imagine your child coming to you with the same problem for years and doing the opposite of what they say they want to do. It's true I am very frustrated. I do try not to show it and shift conversation but I am a human being on top of being a mom. I think that level of complaining and rejecting help would get to anyone.

As for therapy, I sent her a list of therapists near her at college as well as one for home, months ago. I have mentioned to her that it might be a good idea. She has not contacted them. When she didn't like therapy with the initial therapist back in high school I told her she could switch and she said no.[/quote]

Have you considered finding a family therapist and going with her? This is a mental health issue that is obviously impacting all of you. [/quote]

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